Hi everyone,

For the first 25 years I worked in this field, if a client wanted to have a conversation with me during a reading, I felt guilty.

Like I wasn't doing my job properly.

I was trained a certain way: You don't ask questions. You're in charge. You just deliver. All you get from the recipient is yes, no, or I don't know.

It's brilliant for evidential work. But when someone wanted to TALK to me? When they had questions or needed to discuss something?

I felt like a fraud.

I'll never forget this client. She came in, sat down, and within minutes we were having this deep discussion about what she was going through in her life.

I was picking up on her energy. I was open to spirit. Messages were coming through. But we were... talking. Like humans.

She left absolutely over the moon. Tears of gratitude. Said it was exactly what she needed.

And I sat there feeling guilty because I thought I hadn't done my work.

In this week's class, I had my students practice what I call "spiritual coaching" or "intimate readings"—sessions where you have an actual discussion with the person while staying open to spirit and reading their energy.

One of my students, Tammy, said something that perfectly captured the struggle:

"I wasn't too sure what I was supposed to be doing. I was thinking, talking with a friend, listening... and I don't give advice when I talk with a friend. So I think that's where I got screwed up."

Exactly.

We're so trained for STRUCTURE. For facts, facts, facts. For delivering evidence and spiritual assessments.

We forget that sometimes a client doesn't need evidence that their grandmother is around them.

They need someone who will actually LISTEN. Someone who SEES them.

When someone talks to me during a session now, I can sense things I'd completely miss in a one-way delivery:

I can trigger that. We can talk about it. Get to the ROOT instead of dancing around the surface for 30 minutes.

And here's what's wild: Tammy's sitter said she could actually TELL the difference between when Tammy was "in her head thinking too much" versus when she connected from her heart.

The client could feel it.

I think the reason this is so hard for mediums is because we're trained to believe our value comes from proving spirit exists.

Evidence. Names. Dates. Facts.

And yes—that's important work. Beautiful work.

But sometimes the most powerful thing we can offer isn't proof that grandma is here.

It's helping someone see the light within THEMSELVES.

I wish someone had told me 30 years ago:

"Mia, you're allowed to have a conversation. You're allowed to listen. You're not a fraud if they talk back to you. Sometimes that's exactly what they need."

I would've saved myself decades of guilt.

Instead, I had clients leave happy while I sat there punishing myself for "not doing real mediumship."

Meanwhile, they got exactly what their soul needed: to be heard. To be seen. To have someone tune into their energy and say "I see you. I understand. Here's what I'm picking up."

Maybe you're like I was. Maybe you feel guilty when readings don't follow the "proper" structure. Maybe you think you're not a "real medium" if you're not just delivering evidence.

Let me tell you something: the spirit world doesn't care about your structure.

They care about CONNECTION. About healing. About what that person actually needs in that moment.

Sometimes that's evidence.

Sometimes that's a conversation where you help them see their patterns, their indoctrination, their fears—while staying open to spirit for guidance.

When people book a Personal Guidance Session with me, this is exactly what we do.

It's not a typical private sitting. It's 90 minutes where YOU tell me what you're going through, and we have a real discussion while I:

It's for people who need:

Book a Personal Session → - €300 for 90 minutes

All sessions are held under professional secrecy. You briefly describe your needs when booking, and we go from there.

After thousands of readings, I've learned this:

The real work isn't always proving the spirit world exists.

Sometimes the real work is helping someone stop punishing themselves. Helping them see their beauty. Helping them understand why they judge themselves so harshly or why they can't ask for help or why they keep repeating the same painful patterns.

And you know what? Spirit is ALWAYS part of that conversation—even when we're "just talking."

Because when you're truly open, truly listening, truly present with someone's energy?

Spirit shows up. Guidance comes through. Healing happens.

You just have to stop feeling guilty about it.

P.S. - You can always reply to this email with your thoughts or questions. I read every message and respond personally. Your presence in this community means everything to me. 💜

Much love to you all
//Mia

Mia Ottosson is a Spiritual Medium, Healer, Spirit Artist and Author and has been working with Spirit and teaching for over 30 years.

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