Hi everyone,

25 years ago, I did a reading for a beautiful Thai lady. During the sitting, I told her: "I can see you going back to Thailand."

She was quiet for a moment. Then she asked:

"That's my dream. But I'm a single mother with six or seven children, living on social welfare. How is that even possible for me?"

I have never felt so stupid in my entire life.

I wasn't reading the spirit world in that moment. I was reading HER—her hopes, her dreams, what was written all over her auric field.

It's the easiest thing in the world to pick up what someone desperately wants to hear.

You want to be a platform medium? I'll see you on stage.

You're terrified of platform work? I'll tell you it's not for you.

You dream of financial freedom? I'll see abundance coming.

It's all right there in your energy field, and if I'm not careful—if I'm not HONEST with myself about what I'm picking up—I can give you false hope instead of real guidance.

I've been thinking about this a lot lately, especially after our last class in Journey with Mia on October 23rd.

We did something different. Instead of traditional "just deliver evidence" readings, I had students practice what I call spiritual coaching or intimate readings.

Here's how it worked:

The "client" told the medium WHY they were coming—what they were struggling with, what they needed help with.

Then the medium stayed open to spirit and read their energy WHILE having an actual conversation with them.

No rigid structure. No "yes, no, or I don't know" only. Just... talking. Listening. Sensing. Guiding.

One of my students said: "It was so easy. I wasn't searching for information. We were just talking."

Another said: "The client could actually FEEL when I was in my head thinking too much versus when I connected from my heart."

And here's what struck me most: They felt less pressure, but delivered MORE value.

Because sometimes—often, actually—what a client needs isn't more evidence that grandma is around them.

They need someone who will LISTEN. Who will SEE them. Who will help them understand their patterns, their fears, their blocks.

For the first 25 years I worked in this field, if a client wanted to talk to me during a reading, I felt guilty.

Like I wasn't doing my job properly.

I was trained: You don't ask questions. You just deliver. You prove spirit exists.

So when clients left my readings saying "That was exactly what I needed" after we'd had a deep conversation, I'd sit there feeling like a fraud because I thought I hadn't done "real mediumship."

But they got what their SOUL needed: to be heard. To be understood. To have someone see beneath the surface.

When someone talks to me during a session, I can sense things I'd completely miss in a one-way delivery:

I can trigger that. We can talk about it. Get to the ROOT instead of dancing around the surface.

And spirit? Spirit shows up for those conversations too. Guidance comes through. Healing happens.

It just doesn't look like what we're "supposed" to do.

After that Thai lady, after decades of mistakes and learning, I've changed how I work.

Today I say less rather than more.

When I see potential or a possible future, I'll say: "This is what I can see. This is the potential I'm picking up. What you do with it is up to you."

I take away my responsibility for your hopes and dreams. Because I learned the hard way: your hopes manifest in your closest aura, and I can't escape picking that up.

Even after 30+ years, I still make mistakes. I still get insecure with information I receive.

And I think it's important to be honest about that instead of pretending I know it all just because I've been working so long.

Personal responsibility.

When my mum told me "You'll never make it alone" and I moved out anyway—when she was disappointed and my whole family thought I was selfish—the fifth principle of spiritualism saved me:

I can't take responsibility for my mother's wishes about me. I can't take responsibility for what she thinks is best for me. I have to go with what is best for me.

That principle helps with emotional blackmail from family. From clients who think you should be available 24/7. From anyone who wants you to be something you're not.

It helps me set boundaries without guilt.

And it helps me remember: I'm responsible for doing my best work, but I'm not responsible for what you WANT me to say.

In our monthly live classes, we don't just practice traditional mediumship (though we do that too).

We experiment. We try different approaches. We talk about the REAL challenges of this work—the guilt, the pressure, the insecurities, the emotional toll.

We learn how to be flexible instead of stuck in a rigid box.

Coming up in Journey with Mia:

Plus access to our entire library of past classes, guest teachers, and the private community where you can practice and get feedback.

This isn't just about becoming a "better medium." It's about becoming more HONEST—with yourself, with your sitters, with the spirit world.

Join Journey with Mia → - Monthly live classes, guest teachers, practice sessions, and a community that actually tells the truth about this work.

Never trust a medium who tells you they have all the answers.

Never trust a medium who's never wrong.

And definitely never trust a medium who can't admit they sometimes read your hopes instead of your reality.

I've been doing this for 30+ years, and I still make mistakes. I still get insecure. I still question what I'm picking up.

But I've learned to work THROUGH the doubt. To be honest about what I'm sensing. To say less when I need to. To listen more. To be flexible.

That's what real mediumship looks like.

P.S. - In our October 23rd class, students said this was one of the most freeing sessions they'd experienced. If you want access to that recording and all our upcoming live sessions, join Journey with Mia here. We'd love to have you.

P.S. - You can always reply to this email with your thoughts or questions. I read every message and respond personally. Your presence in this community means everything to me. 💜

Much love to you all
//Mia

Mia Ottosson is a Spiritual Medium, Healer, Spirit Artist and Author and has been working with Spirit and teaching for over 30 years.

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